Yes, 10 steps back not just one. Before Charlotte started Kinder I commented to my Mum that She may need to stay here at our home with Charlotte on Mondays (my supposed work day) rather than taking Charlotte back to her place.

Now did I bring that into existence with my thoughts or was I just being a tuned in Mum? Maybe a mixture of  both.

Anyway, last Monday Charlotte was beside herself verging on hysterical once She hopped into Mum’s car. She had
an iron grip on me and no matter what was said, She wasn’t going to let go and everytime I tried to prise her hands off me, She clung even tighter. Ouch! And cried uncontrollably with panic written all over her face.

Leaving Is Usually Smooth

Mostly, Charlotte goes off quite well to Mums. She looks sad at times, but goes without too much fuss nonetheless. After trying to negotiate for maybe 10 minutes I asked Mum if  She could stay at our place whilst I got some work done. Mum was not happy and commented that Charlotte has me wrapped around her little finger. I said ‘And so She should have, She is only 4 yrs old!’ It is so rare for Charlotte to be that upset, so I wasn’t about to ignore her. She even verbalised that I was hurting her feelings and making her sad.

If  it was a friend or family member or any adult for that matter, I would not be ignoring their feelings, so why should I ignore my daughters feelings during these incredibly informative years? (more…)